This is a letter for learning (and perhaps accepting we can’t predict things)

I like to ask people for their opinion. I like to see how their emotions and life experiences take them to an specific train of thoughts to give me some sort of advice. It’s interesting how differently people react to the same explanation of a problem – I find this fascinating. It is much more learning about people than learning about life or its outcome.

Each moment lived teaches us something that, somehow, we believe it to be applicable in someone else’s life – either we are talking about a problem at work, a disease, family or love – mainly love. Is it life that turns us into such skeptical creatures or the way we handle our experiences? Can we tell exactly what will happen or how it will happen? Can we actually predict things? We are all rules, not exceptions?

Listening carefully and taking every word said as true it is an actual risk. I tend to take those opinions, those bursts of knowledge on any sort of subject or feeling and apply them directly onto something only I live or know. I have this morbid tendency to see the scene in my head, taking place with all the advices being used, word by word. Turns out, things in our heads work wonders – not so much in real life. Can you see the risk there? Sure, people from the outside see things differently and put things in perspective easily. But they don’t know the correct outcome. None of us do. So, shouldn’t we all just take the risk and live the way we think we should?

Then you find out one very important rule – everyone knows everything. And everyone is flat out wrong, even when they are so damn right it hurts. But each and every one of us has an specific path, things to see and feel by ourselves – how I learn is absolutely different from you.
It takes a lot to stand your ground and not go with the flow. To listen, but not to take it as yours. To consider, but see among the trees of knowledge that some things may not apply to you. To live today and don’t give a single fuck.

Truth to be told? Learning is a tough-love process that we must go through by ourselves. Literally. Although some stuff we can and it is better to learn together, most of it we must walk with our own shoes and find out what is better for us. And, if we fall, those with the easy words are the ones that will hold us in silence. So, yeah…we can’t predict things. We can’t take a shortcut in learning. We can learn a few tricks down the road but learning is something like a scar.