This a (belated) letter for Christmas
I used to love Christmas. Hard. I would be full of expectations two weeks prior to the 24th – my Grandma would start her shopping trips to the supermarket (oh, the food…), Mom would be trying to lie to us in order to buy our presents… And the day would come with my Grandpa dressed as Santa (such a skinny Santa…), my dad clearly drunk and all the kids (me included) fighting for no aparent reason.
I lost my grandparents a long time ago. Grandma was the first to go – years later, my Granpa. And I guess Christmas could just not be the same without them. So, for years and years, this date was a bit crazy – to me. Because I want to love it again, but those who made me love it are not here anymore. It is a pleasure to see all my cousins, my beloved uncles, the children… But I miss Adair and her Geraldinho. I miss my cousins and I stealing things from my Grandpa workshop to play with. I miss that old blue house. There is no longer the smell of gas in the bucket, where Grandpa’s jumpsuits were soggy. Egg yarn is missing, and I hate egg yarn. There is no raisin and I would love to remove it from the world.
But I guess I found a strange new love for Christmas – my nieces and nephews. Seeing my mom and aunts reign supreme. My dad always drunk and laughing on his own. The crazy fights we get into every time and we can’t even pinpoint what the actual fuck we were fighting about. I hate Cristmas – but I love it.
I really wish both of you were here – to be mad at us for fighting, or not eating enough. Or forcing us to do something we don’t want to. Or cooking things we couldn’t care about (but we would probably eat anyway). I wish I had picked up the phone that day, your last night on earth and told you how much I love you, Grandma. I regret every time I spoke to you and didn’t shout to the world how much I love you. I wish I could have hold your hand trough every chemio session you had, Grandpa. I wish I could have fought earlier with Nancy and let you drank all the fucking Coke in the world. I wish you could have see me that last Sunday afternoon, hours before you left.
I love you. And I love Christmas again, because of you.