We have to talk about responsibility – with one another. We have to own our shit and be extremely responsible with other human beings because, guess what? We are all on the same fucking boat.
You may be wondering: why is she talking about this? What does she actually want to talk about? If you also follow me on Instagram (and speaks Portuguese) you may have seen a series of videos I made about FOMO. If not, it all started after one of my dearests friends sent me a message saying she was morally hung over after she met with her latest fling at a party. And, today, something extremely aggressive happened to me and since I have this space here, it is time to talk about being responsible with our fellow humans.
We were raised in a society that gives power to men and diminish women, whilst we romanticize certain behaviors. So, we perpetuate this state of “normality” and we keep violating ourselves, our friends and family and other people. Women are fragile and need to be swoon over in order to give a man a perfect life. Men can lie and cheat and do all sorts of mischiefs because boys will always be boys. We say it is adorable when a man stalk a woman and hurt people around her because look: he made her breakfast. Or, we tend to shrug our shoulders when a man pretends to be lovely, shy and sweet, pretends he wants something with you, when in reality, he just want to have sex and move on with his life. Why?
I know in this extremely connected society we live right now give us this sense of urgency – to swipe left and right in record time because we cannot miss anything. And I also know FOMO has crossed every boundary and now is not only online – it is offline. We are so afraid of missing something that we no longer care how we treat one another. I’m talking not only about romantic relationships. But we are blinded on how we treat people and how we relate to them, how we dance to the music of society. We are always, constantly afraid of what is next that we can’t even be honest – to ourselves and to others. How can I spend time or even open up a little of my life when I may be missing something greater just around the corner? (newsflash, 99,99% of the time, this is wrong and there isn’t something greater there. It is just another mediocre encounter because, once again, you are not really there)
Honesty is key to everything. We can find new friends, have amazing flings, and have a great night – as long as everything is grounded on honesty. We seem to be doing a marathon and people are obstacles and we have to run and run and run – doesn’t matter if you fucked someone’s head, you are always on top of everything, who cares? That is why we HAVE to be responsible for someone’s feelings. Blocking someone, using them, pretending nothing has ever happened just indicates how fucking self-absorbed you are and how you have zero respect to their feelings. And how you can’t deal with real relationships and real human beings. We have to be responsible – with us and others. TELL THE FUCKING TRUTH. It doesn’t hurt – lying, on the other hand, HURTS A FUCK LOAD.
Why do we use this mask? Why we lie in order to get what we want? Its 2019 – people are independent, they can live their lives on their own, have fun, and pay their bills. Own what you really want and talk to people and actively LISTEN to them. Not to just reply immediately to what they are saying, but understand what they want to say, sink in into their thoughts and mind. Talk. Listen. Be real. Don’t be aggressive and go on blocking people because you can’t deal with your truth. Don’t go on ghosting people, hurting them, just because you feel you are entitled to anything. You are not.
Remember that. Be honest. Be nice. And have great life.
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